this is one of the many e-mails that angel sent me for the past month. but this one is kinda different coz after reading this i realized lots of stuff. i wouldnt want to write it here coz it's really personal but i have my own little notebook where i write stuff that i keep to myself. it's kinda long but a very nice read :)
Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to
recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many
beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our
own selfish concerns. Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words
for you will find rewarding happiness not with the man you love but the man
who loves you more. The best lovers are those who are capable of loving from
a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow, but never too far
to feel the love deep within your being.
To let go of someone doesn't mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own HAPPINESS without expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting yourself free from all fears, bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith,
and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let you grow with
wisdom in bearing it. You may have found peace in just loving someone from a
distance not expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can
sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all
survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and
happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.
There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and we
just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This
feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our
thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just friendship, or the feelings he or she might have for you is just too far from how you love that person
in return. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but
in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for
You don't have to be bitter on love. What you need to learn is how to
accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself.
Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to
someone more deserving. Don't let your heart run your life, be sensible
and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to
reason as well.
Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone
better is coming tomorrow: If you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love. Cry, if you have to, but make it sure that the tears wash
away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. Let go of
yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray
that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.
"When you lose someone... and you think you were the one who loved most,
between the two of you... he lost more. For someday you can love someone
the way that you loved him...But he will never be loved again the way
that you did."